I’m not ashamed to say that I still experience worry.
The capacity to frame, reframe and deal with worry has become increasingly better over the years
My intention is that my capacity to deal with worry will continue to get better and better.
This is part of why I was committed to a personal journey of completing 1000 woops (Wish, Outcome, Obstacles and Plans).
A very similar precursor to this approach though with a different methodology and intention are the questions posed by Dale Carnegie in his book “How to stop worrying and start living”.
Carnegie shares how he
1. Wrote down exactly what he was worried about
2. Wrote down what he could do about it
3. Decided what to do
4. Started immediately to action a decision
There are some things within your locus of control (internal) and there are some things beyond your control (external locus of control).
Ever tried changing those things not in your control?
I know I have!
Ever tried worrying about those things you can’t control?
I know I have!
Does it help in any way shape or form to worry or attempt to change what is beyond your control?
Nope! Not in the slightest.
It takes a lot of reflection + if needed connecting with others to separate out what you can do and what just needs to pass.
“So let’s be content to live the only time we can possibly live: from now until bedtime. ‘Anyone can carry his burden, however hard, from now until nightfall,’ wrote Robert Louis Stevenson. ‘Anyone can do his work, however, hard, for one day. Anyone can live sweetly, patiently, lovingly, purely, till the sun goes down. And this is all that life really means.’
The capacity to worry might not necessarily go away.
The capacity to learn and explore tools that help cope with worry…
That is definitely within our control.
Why not start exploring tools that help you cope more effectively with worry?
Might be a life-long journey but a goodie to explore.