Do you know the difference between pain and suffering?
Let’s examine it quickly from a pen and paper point of view.
Pain = “highly unpleasant physical sensation…”
Suffering = “the state of undergoing pain, distress, or hardship.”
Of course there is far more too it than that.
A great perspective on this comes from Dr. Neff.
Check this out…
“I once went on a meditation retreat with a wonderful teacher named Shinzen Young, who gave me words of wisdom that I’ll never forget. He said that the key to happiness was understanding that suffering is caused by resisting pain. We can’t avoid pain in life, he said, but we don’t necessarily have to suffer because of that pain... he chose to express these words of wisdom with an equation: “Suffering = Pain x Resistance.” He then added, “Actually, it’s an exponential rather than a multiplicative relationship.” His point was that we can distinguish between the normal pain of life—difficult emotions, physical discomfort, and so on—and actual suffering, which is the mental anguish caused by fighting against the fact that life is sometimes painful.”
Anything you resisting right now?
How can you make it easier on yourself?
What do you need to tell yourself?
What conversations would be good to have with loved ones to process and deal with the pain +lessen the resistance that little bit more?