Cant’, wont’ or will?

Growing up I can’t tell you how many times I heard my Father respond to me when I’d say ‘I can’t.’

Actually I can…hundreds of times until his answer stuck.

What did he say?

I’d say ‘I can’t…’ in relation to something and he’d say…

“There’s no such thing as can’t.”

That one has stuck…

Check this out…

“Let’s start by looking at your language and two common words that blur your ability to be honest with yourself. Those two four-letter words are ‘can’t’ and ‘won’t.’ Think about how often people say some version of the following:

I can’t get up and work out every day.

I can’t find the time to get writing done.

I can’t forgive her for what she’s done.

I can’t take that job, it’s across the country.

I can’t ask for help.

I can’t ask for a promotion because I’m not good enough yet.

I can’t launch this project because my boss didn’t approve it.

I can’t ___________ [take the class/learn the language/start the venture/etc.] because I can’t afford it.

Here’s the problem: 99 percent of the time when we say we ‘can’t’ do something, ‘can’t’ is a euphemism for ‘won’t.’ What does ‘won’t’ mean? ‘Won’t’ means we’re not willing. In other words...

You don’t really want to.” (Forleo)

With Arete,


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